written by Lee Nam-seok

teenagers. They get hurt or break each other’s heart because of their immature
emotion. Sometimes, they have fantasy of love and sexuality watching melodramas or
porn. They don’t know what they feel when trouble comes up, and have no one to talk
to, either. Therefore, most of them tend to just forget the problems or leave problems
away. Then, they happen to get hurt even more, or regret what they did.
However, there are only mere moral lectures far from the reality, which are just in
‘Morality’ textbook at home and school, waiting for teenagers. Since there’s no guide
book about this, so there’s no chance for teenagers to learn truly what love is.
Teachers and parents are also frustrated with teenager education. Under these
circumstances, it would be helpful for not just teenagers but also their teachers and
parents if they can get a mentor book of mature love for teenagers. Can I Ask What
Love is? is here for you.
The book starts with the reflection on love. What on earth is the love? Being attracted
to other gender or having passionate interests is not meant to be love. However, most
teenagers and adults misunderstand that those feelings are love. What would they do
after realizing mature love consists of three elements?
Mr. Sternberg, a psychologist, explains that love consists of three elements - passion,
intimacy and commitment. With passion only, the love ends up with temporary event,
and with intimacy only, the love is nothing but just friendship, and with commitment
only, the love ends up with duty without romantic feelings. Only when these three
elements are united, we can share happy love caring each other. This lesson is a big
help to make love more mature.
The book not just gives us this knowledge as a theory, but also kindly sends out the
message by connecting the lesson with school day experience, movie, fairy tales,
songs, and TV shows.